Oh sure, there is actually a worldwide conspiracy to destroy the traditional Maltese family. As if it is not the people themselves who make or break traditions.

The match will soon be over and it doesn’t make sense to repeat the same arguments over and over again. I do hope that I’ve done my part to convince at least one single person to vote NO.

Sooner or later divorce legislation will certainly be introduced because society has been doing everything possible to destroy the traditional Maltese family. Pity. But then it would be too late.

[Daphne – So you see it as a ‘match’.]

[GiovDeMartino – So they do not deserve another chance to get more chn and then dump hem].

Ah, you meant “So they do not deserve another chance to get more children and then dump them”.

No one has the right to dump children. However, you musn’t assume that people whose marriage fails dump their children. That is a highly offensive, prejudiced, and a very “unChristian” thing to say.

[GiovDeMartino – Mr Cassar I’m pleased to learn that you have been happily married for 11 years. I am sincerely pleased].

My first marriage lasted six months before I got an annulment. Make your own conclusion on that.

[GiovDeMartino – I have just celebrated my 54th marriage anniversary! We could manage this because we really love one another].

Yes, because you BOTH love one another.

[GiovDeMartino – But if Mr Cassar is a normal male, he knows what I meant when I wrote what I wrote].

Yes I do. That is why I strongly disagree.

[GiovDeMartino – It is a well known fact, statistics or no statistics, that when a man decides to leave his first wife, nothing will stop him to leave the second, the third].

Nothing stops anyone from leaving his first wife, too (or the wife from leaving her husband). Whether its the first, second, etc makes no difference in itself. It always depends on the individuals involved. So your interpretation of facts is grossly mistaken.

[GiovDeMartino – Who makes a mess of the marriage? Most probably both of them].

What makes you so sure. Each case is different. Multiple factors contribute to marriage failure. Trying to apportion blame solves nothing. Although attempts should be made to save a marriage, in many cases the rift is irreversible. Preventing people to move on only makes matters worse.

[GiovDeMartino – So they do not deserve another chance to get more chn and then dump hem].

You’ll have to retype that.

Mr Cassar I’m pleased to learn that you have been happily married for 11 years. I am sincerely pleased. I have just celebrated my 54th marriage anniversary! We could manage this because we really love one another. But if Mr Cassar is a normal male, he knows what I meant when I wrote what I wrote.
It is a well known fact, statistics or no statistics, that when a man decides to leave his first wife, nothing will stop him to leave the second, the third.
Who makes a mess of the marriage? Most probably both of them. So they do not deserve another chance to get more chn and then dump hem.

No, we don’t ban driving because some people crash, but we ban the drivers who cannot drive properly. We do not ban marriage, ban those who make a mess of their marriage. If you cannot drive, don’t drive. If you cannot bring up a decent family, do not get married or, at least, do not try to get children.

[Daphne – How do you work out who made a mess of his or her marriage?]

[Lomax – but they said divorce does reduce the commitment with which one enters into marriage].

How would that work out? Do you think that couples in love and getting married will think “No big deal. I won’t fully commit to my marriage. There’s always divorce”.

I would think that people with such attitudes have a very good chance of a failed marriage, with or without divorce. And nothing will keep them together if the marriage fails. Not even the absence of divorce legislation.

So basically, the idea is to ban divorce for the sake of the mentally immature. That argument is no argument against divorce – it is an argument for the prohibition of marriage for the mentally immature. But of course, and for good reason, I have yet to hear someone suggest a pshchological examination and a means test prior to marriage.

I am relying of facts and not on brainwashing.

@ GiovDeMartino:

Daphne’s reply is good enough for me. I won’t waste any time repeating the obvious.

Daphne’s half hearted reply is more than enough to prove my point.

[Daphne – It wasn’t a half-hearted one but a succinct one. Your reasoning is irrational and illogical: some second marriages fail so all second marriages should be banned. I trust you realise that with your reasoning, this follows: some first marriages fail, so all first marriages should be banned (and that means, no marriage at all).]

She knows perfectly well that when the first marriage fails, there is very little chance for the second marriage to succeed.

[Daphne – Rubbish. I know nothing of the sort. And nor do you. More to the point, it is irrelevant. You don’t ban marriage – first, second, third or fourth – because some fail. What next – ban driving because some people crash?]

And less chance for the third….”so shall we allow no second marriages?” Exactly…NO to divorce. If your first marriage fails, there is very little chance, if any, of having a successful second marriage. I am not relying on statistics, but on facts.

[Daphne – Statistics are facts. You are relying on decades of brainwashing, misinformation and lack of exposure to real life.]