“Now, this gives the average woman about a three day window period every month for pregnancy to occur.”

As I have already explained there is actually a seven-day window in which conception can occur. It is difficult to calculate exactly when this occurs as women do not tend to ovulate at exactly the same time each month.

Couples who practise natural family planning are advised to abstain from sex from Day 8 to Day 21 to be on the safe side. On the other hand, if you are trying to have a baby, this is the time to be sexually active.

The point I am trying to make is that statistically, it is a lot easier to get pregnant from a one night stand than most people realise.

Yes I’m a maths graduate, but not a gambling man.

And I’m still with Trololol on this one.

Of course, rape is random. I doubt a rapist would enquire about the menstrual period before the act.

And yes if you consider the fact that she never talked about the rape before, the odds of this man being guilty fall to less than 1%, even wthout DNA evidence.

Yes, the police saw it fit to prosecute and the newspapers published his name.

The police should prosecute her for making a false report.

Technically Trololol is right, In an average 28 day cycle, a woman is fertile for about two days. Sperm generally survive inside of the woman’s body for about 48 hours. Now, this gives the average woman about a three day window period every month for pregnancy to occur.

From this alone, the odds of conception from a one-time sexual encounter are about 10%.

[Daphne – I really hope you’re not a gambling man. Or a maths graduate. If the woman is fertile during “a one-time sexual encounter”, the chances of her getting pregnant are 99.9% and not 10%, unless she is over 35 or there are systematic malfunctions. What you mean is that if you put it about randomly, you have a 10% chance of getting somebody pregnant. That’s different.]

Now, it’s estimated that pregnancy to term only occurs one in every three conceptions. This lowers the odds of pregnancy from a single sexual encounter to about 3%. There Trololol is right in saying that PROBABLY she had several encounters, rather than the one. PROBABLY but not DEFINITELY.

[Daphne – No, Rayb. What makes it probable that she had an affair is not the fact that she conceived, but the fact that she hid the paternity of the child and the fact that she knew the child was not her husband’s. This is not consistent with rape, but consistent with a secret affair. I repeat: it takes only one act of sex to make a baby. Not two, not three, not a full=blown affair and certainly not ‘trying’ or ‘several attempts’. This might be very difficult for you to understand, but please try.]

Bah. I give up. My point is that I seriously doubt that what she had with this guy was a one off.

Which is why; as you stated; it has to be at the right time of month.

My point is; that considering all factors; this woman was playing around with Libyan dude for ages; not just during this single ‘rape scene’ or one night stand.

[Daphne – Flawed reasoning. Nobody doubts that, if the child is his, then it was the result of an affair and not rape. But it still doesn’t take more than one “shot”, as you so elegantly put it, to conceive it. You’re talking of odds, but whatever you might have been led to believe, the odds are pretty good because the time-window is pretty big, as was carefully explained to you by this nice lady up above.]

It is amazing that in this day and age there are grown men (I assume, Trololol, that you are a grown man?) who still are oblivious to how conception occurs.

I am more than happy to give this man a basic lesson in human reproduction.

As Daphne has already stated quite correctly, all it takes is “one shot” – but it has to be at the right time of a woman’s monthly cycle. On average a woman’s cycle is normally between 28 to 32 days measured from the first day of her menstrual period until the first day of her next period.

Most woman ovulate (release an egg) anywhere between Day 11- Day 21 of their cycle. This is the fertile time during which sexual intercourse can increase the chance of pregnancy.

Are you still with me, Trololol? Now we come to the important stuff: why all it takes is “one shot.” Listen carefully.

After intercourse, sperm can live for up to five days but an egg can only live 12 to 24 hours at most. Conception can occur any time live sperm meet up with a live egg. So a woman can get pregnant if she has sex five days before she ovulates and up to two days after she ovulates.

All it takes is one time, but it has to be at the right time, which is within that seven-day window when a woman can get pregnant.

I hope you have found this information educational, and I also hope that your idea of what constitutes a “sex life” is a hell of a lot better than your knowledge of biology.

Daphne – what I meant is – that very rarely a baby is conceived by just one act of intercourse:- it has to be the right time of month for the woman; and there’s a lot of other factors that can prevent the sperm from reaching the ovum :- point is; that I sincerely doubt that this ‘conception’ would have happened from just one single act of intercourse/rape, hence most probably she didn’t have a one night stand/got raped; but rather had an affair with this guy. Just adding my humble guy thoughts about it.

[Daphne – I repeat, as you seem not to have understood: conception is ALWAYS the result of a single act of intercourse. “Very rarely a baby is conceived by just one act of intercourse” – no, in fact, that’s always the case. That’s why so many people get pregnant when they don’t want to be: because they think as you do.]

I am truly sorry for the poor little mite.

Thanks, you’ve described it perfectly. And it all makes sense.

Except that hammering on the door and ringing the home phone didn’t work. I just got done for harassment and nbow have a criminal record to boot.

But my youngest daughter is only a toddler so the only way to see her is through my wife, so I am at her mercy there.

And yes, my wife was always lazy, and I never minded working two/three jobs to keep her happy and at home as she wanted, but now she wants “her space” and I don’t fit in her in her Facebook circle of over 40 “born again teenagers” , so I must go.

That’s it, I’m disposable and with no rights at all, not even to see my little girls without going to the police station every time.

Believe me, I would give my arms and legs just to be able to be at home with my kids. If these wives are bored why don’t they just pack up and leave? What is stopping them?

Why have they to destroy their husband and throw him out like a dog on just some mid-life whim? Your advice was spot-on though , and I thank you for looking beyond the housewife theatrics.

Nicholas Azzopardi was beaten up in the police HQ and subsequently died in hospital. He ended up dead.

[Daphne – We don’t know whether he was beaten up. We do know that he ended up dead. I,too, would like to know what happened there.]

[Daphne – Somebody give this man biology lessons. I’ll try: conception, like sexually transmitted diseases, ALWAYS happens “at one shot”. It’s not like, say, polishing a surface or grinding a knife.]