do you have kids? you felt the need to go to work, cause you could not handle raising kids as its a bloody difficult thing to do. It is so much easier to go to work for eight hours, and let nanna, nannu or childcare take care and raise your kids for you, while you work and socialise with adults. I have nothing against working mums. but for you to say that stay at home mums are lazy is very offensive. I am a stay at home mum and i am exhausted at the end of the day as i tend to my two kids all day long. I do things that a mother should be doing, and interacting with my kids, and playing with them, and teaching them. It is my choice to do it, in their first years of life, before they go to school, I want to be the one to teach them and take care of them. I had kids, to spend time with them, and not to after a month i put my baby in care so i go to work. me and my husband sacrifice a lot so I am able to stay at home and raise our kids, but we will not have it any other way. We want it like this, i want to be there for them all day and night, and i rather not go on a yearly family holiday in summer, but spend my time with the family all year. I do not want to work so i can do the kapricci. i am happy to sacrifice those material things for the sake of being there for my kids all the time.
So you saying your mind would rot if you stayed at home as a mum and wife, then i am very sorry for you, as you are not seeing the beauty of your kids, and the honour you have to raise them. its either you are working because you cannot manage with just one wage, or you are working for self gratification and because you cannot handle spending all day with your kids. which probably the latter is the reason since you believe your brain will rot…we all have different opinions of what is best for our families, some of us, want to instill in them that we are there for them anytime, and some of us want to be able to buy them whatever they want, and then there are some that go to work so they dont have to deal with the shananigans of raising their own children as they are scared their brains will rot. but unlike you, i do not point my finger to say you are doing a wrong thing. that is your way, and you should not call other mums lazy, we do the hardest but most rewarding job, with no monetary gain. there is no shame on a mother, that does her job of raising kids. the shame is on you for calling a mother that does her job, a lazy woman.

@ Bonn

Well said!

@ toyger

Your comments were very offensive. People have different values and priorities. Do not judge!

i worked throughout my years at university too, like you. I am married and worked for 7 years. I decided to stop when I had a baby.

You are of the opinion that “If I were to win a colossal sum of money tomorrow that would get rid of any expenses I may have, but I’d still go to work for one simple reason.

My mind would rot if I had to be a stay-at-home wife and mum.” Thats what I used to say before I had a child.

I was so disappointed to read “I have never been able to just sit pretty and do nothing.

So again, how lazy are these people? Have they no pride? ” You judged all non working women and you failed to see the bigger picture. You think we sit pretty at home?

You think we do nothing, are lazy, and have no pride. On the contrary, it seems as though you are sitting pretty at your desk for 8 hrs..you dont seem to have children, so please spare me.

You want to know about pride? Believe me, I have a lot of pride, pride in my degree, pride in my masters degree, and pride in having the strength to decide to leave my career to nuture my child without dumping him here and there just so I can fulfill my own needs.

And trust me, I LIVE and EXPERIENCE wonderful things on a daily basis and have no regrets of the choice I made.

Remember people have different values and priorities, mine were to invest my time and energy towards my child’s future. You do what you think is best, but please don’t judge and mock others who have different priorities.

Is that not contradictory? He does not want a Little House on the Prairie type of family.

Plus she must be 62 or 63 by now.

As the pole or the dancer?

As soon as I finished my O-levels, I started working part-time, which I continued to do up until I finished my final year exams at university.

For the last three years of university, I had two concomitant part-time jobs and I was part of the executive of one of the student associations.

Now I’ve been working full time for five years since I finished university. I am married, have a bank loan etc.

If I were to win a colossal sum of money tomorrow that would get rid of any expenses I may have, but I’d still go to work for one simple reason.

My mind would rot if I had to be a stay-at-home wife and mum.

I have never been able to just sit pretty and do nothing. So again, how lazy are these people? Have they no pride?

Are they just happy to exist rather than live and experience new things?

Il-mara ta Dr Gonzi kienet ghalliema izda kienet waqqfet biss ilha hafna u hafna snin taghmel volontorjat kontinwu specjalment fis-settur tal-‘mental health’ u dan minghajr hafna trombi u xinxilli.

My thoughts exactly.

The majority of Little House on the Praire families vote Labour.