As to the younger ones who believe they can juggle career and home life, I simply say they are deluded. A few make a good living and have flexibility at work but even then their hard-earnt money has to go on spoiling their little brats, paying for the best education, clothing etc. to repeat their own cycle of life and reproduce replicas of themselves. Yet I bet they still do most of the housework and are no better than paid manual labourers cum sex objects for their husbands.

Not to mention all the effort and extent some women go to to keep a man; surgery and living a life centred around their looks.

Familiarity breeds contempt and a life of independence is possible for women if they realize that children are a luxury only the rich should afford, only if you afford full-time cleaning services and a nanny to give you a breather. Otherwise it’s a life of drudgery.

Then again i advocate living in separately and read books like “40 reasons not to have children”. I don’t have any inclination to read 50 shades and it makes me sad that so many women have chosen to live a life of drudgery and alienate themselves with pornographic literature.

Feminism seems to have failed women, there is incredible pressure for women to have children as though society were conspiring to keep women enslaved to the kitchen sink and their men. Sure, men have no problems with having children, they don’t alter their lifestyle that much and if they don’t like going back home to a frustrated, nagging wife and screaming children, they have the handy excuse of putting in longer hours at the office to provide for the family.

As far as I can tell from the story, this Mr Grey is getting all he wants only because he has money, money, money. Would he have had his way if he had been a pauper? Money is driving them both.

And no, we are not all like this.

I’d rather live in a shack and eat left-overs than sell my self-respect and independence.

And I’d much rather be spending my own money than anybody else’s – it’s empowering – that way you don’t have to put up with anything you don’t want to put up with.

I really can’t fathom why it is such a big hit with women. From what I can gather, it is very demeaning towards the female sex, their aspirations and their independence.

It pains me to think that such a book might be the only read some women have had for years.

Dear Daphne,pity you had to abridge my comment.

Was it so inappropriate?

Well it’s your blog and your perogative. I tend to accept all your decisions.

If I am not misstaken, in our days, we used to be taught how to avoid those who were labled as gold diggers.

I must agree with what you say about women in the “mummy” stage. What you missed out was the effort made by mummies to try and make their little darlings make the right choice, and that dependid mostly on the size of daddy’s wallet.

God bless you all.

Mela ghax taqra il-Bibbja tkun redikolu?

I suppose you fancy yourself a worthy man to be aboard the boat Riff Raff? And of course, you’re not gay, heaven forbid!

Ghalfejn redikolu? Mela qatt ma qrajtha il-bibbja?

[Daphne – Rubbish. It’s impossible to stick with a book just to see what all the media fuss is about, even if you were inclined to start it for that reason in the first place. Soho’s sex shops are promoting Fifty Shades of Grey and one of them has a massive neon lit promotion in the window: YOU’VE READ THE BOOK, NOW BUY THE TOYS.]