Comments on: Why is the word ‘lesbian’ in the heading? Why is the word ‘lesbian’ even mentioned in the story? https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/ Daphne Caruana Galizia is a journalist working in Malta. Sun, 21 Oct 2012 11:32:40 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: carabott https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-447926 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 11:32:40 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-447926 Did he say something to his ex companion for being lesbian and hid her homosexuality from him or only his relative was the culprit in all this?

]]> By: Marcus https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445526 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 23:57:01 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445526 Surely there are heterosexual men out there that have had some homosexual episode in their lives, but that does not make them homosexual or gay. Similarly, there are women who have had some homosexual episode in their lives, but that does not make them homosexual or gay.

And by episodes I don’t mean that they fell into someone’s pants haphazardly, but rather deliberately, premeditatedly resulting in enjoyable episodes.

I think that we have all witnessed girl/female couples in public where one party was blatantly butch, masculine, and usually the controlling type, coupled with a sweet, feminine and subservient type girl/female.

Typically, girls who have lesser developed personalities or some type of low self esteem and who end up with the type of guys who badger them and abuse them in every kind of way (usually because they are mummy’s boys), seek an escape from this kind of relationship once it becomes unbearable.

It so happens that for such girls, temporarily pairing with another girl, most often emotionally rather than sexually is a more bearable outcome than remaining in that abusive relationship. It also so happens that such types of coupling occurs when it is familiar and trusted, thus the boy’s cousin!

One must be careful before applying labels. This is not a case of black or white but of shades of grey. (No pun intended!)

Any psychologist reading this to back up or critique my claim?

]]> By: Natalie https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445374 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 22:08:11 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445374 In reply to aston.

Who’s Franco?

]]> By: aston https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445285 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 21:00:54 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445285 In reply to Ken il malti.

Shush, don’t say that or Franco won’t stop using it.

]]> By: Zachary Stewart https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445283 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 21:00:07 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445283 The same reason you used it twice in this post’s headline, because “Lesbian” is a word that gets clicks.

]]> By: aston https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445280 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 20:58:51 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445280 It’s even worse on MaltaToday:

“A 21-year-old man from Msida was remanded in custody after he allegedly threatened he would shoot gay woman for ‘sitting’ with his former girlfriend.”

Sitting? Really? Of course they tried to translate “pogguta” which is a pretty vulgar term anyway. Couldn’t they come up with co-habitation given it’s such a topical subject?

]]> By: Ken il malti https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445237 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 20:38:05 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445237 The word “Lesbian” is an attention grabber.

It is so good at grabbing attention it should be used in traffic signs. For example:

LESBIAN
Sharp curve ahead
Slow down

]]> By: Alfred Bugeja https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445236 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 20:38:03 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445236 If a crime has an element of homophobia, that element should be considered as an aggravating factor by the court when handing down its sentence. The article does not mention this detail, but it could be the case.

]]> By: Harry Purdie https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445235 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 20:37:32 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445235 Probably thinking ‘honour killing’.

]]> By: Uninterested Bystander https://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/2012/10/why-is-the-word-lesbian-in-the-heading-why-is-the-word-lesbian-even-mentioned-in-the-story/#comment-445224 Fri, 19 Oct 2012 20:32:28 +0000 http://daphnecaruanagalizia.com/?p=23926#comment-445224 So their readers can imagine what goes on behind the closed door and drives that poor man insane.

Is one of them called Delilah?

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